One thing that was very interesting was Will's perspective on his kids. He revealed that he had to learn over time to be more aware of their emotional needs and their own dreams versus the dreams that he may have had for his kids. Last week, news broke that Willow Smith would no longer play the lead role in the high-profile remake of "Annie," because she had become too old to play the part, but according to Will, that wasn't exactly the real story. Willow wasn't really interested in playing the part anymore because she wanted to focus on being a normal 12-year-old.
In the past 18 months, I have spent a lot of time focusing on the emotional aspect of my life and my family. In 2010, in one year, our family had the 'Karate Kid.' we had 'Whip my Hair,' we had Hawthorne, and at the end of the year, we did the Nobel Concert when Barack Obama won his Nobel Peace Prize. Don't be clapping yet, that wears you out.
The thing that had become very clear to me is the danger of a material world and focusing so hard on coming up with money or a house or ajob. You focus so hard on those things, and sometimes you can lose focus on why you are doing it in the first place. The only reason to do any of that is to have love.
Willow was supposed to be doing 'Annie,' we got Jay-Z to do the movie, got the studio to come in and Willow had such a difficult time on tour with 'Whip my Hair' and she said, 'Youknow Daddy, I don't think so' and I said, 'Baby, hold up! I said no,no,no, listen, you'll be in New York with all of your friends and Beyoncé will be there. You will be singing and dancing,' and she looked at me and said, 'Daddy, I have a better idea, how about I just be 12.'
I'm really learning through Willow the necessity that we have to snap ourselves backand refocus on the emotional needs of the people that we love. Someone's emotional needs can be very very different from your dreams and what you think they should be doing and where they are supposed to be.
What I took away from that was, when you are a parent who has a super talented kid, you will naturally want to push them to the limit of their abilities so that the world can see their talents. Sometimes you may have to take a step back and ask, "Is this my child's dream or is this my dream formy child?" I believe every parent may go through this at some point.
Unfortunately, it wasn't Willow's dream. It could have been something that she thought she wanted to do, but after being thrust into the spotlight and seeing the actual work she had to put in, she realized that she liked life far better when she was a normal 12-year-old.